Dealing With A Possesive Parthner In A Relationship
You have been in a relationship for several months. Things seemed to be going great. Then, you began to realize that the longer the relationship has gone on, the clingier your partner has become. They want you to spend all your time together. They get upset and perhaps even angry if you spend time with your friends or people in your life besides them.
If you are not together, they are always calling you, texting you or sending you emails and IMs. You are realizing that your life is revolving solely around your partner. Then, you begin to wonder what you can do about it and if the relationship is doomed to failure.
Realise The Problem Exists
First of all, realizing that a problem exists is a huge step in the right direction. You realize that this partnership is not healthy. You know that there are things that need to change. Even in the most committed, happy relationships, the partners need space. They cannot live their lives completely devoted to each other and inseparable. It is just not humanly possible. No matter how much we love someone and want to be with them, we also have to have our own time and space now and then. It is a simple fact of life.
You also need to know how to approach your possessive parthner correctly. There is nothing worse than making your partner feel like you are pushing them away or do not want to be with them and spend time with them. This can lead to many misconceptions and can ultimately damage your relationship beyond repair.
Compromise is the key here. Both you and your partner have to be able to come to an agreement regarding the time that you spend together. This is different for every couple. Perhaps you get one night a week completely free to do whatever you want separately. Maybe you institute date night with your partner and spend time together with just the two of you. There are endless possibilities here and it is something that only you and your partner can figure out.
Dont Blame Yourself
You also need to keep in mind that this is just as much your fault as your partners. Yes, your lover has become more and more clingy as the relationship has progressed. However, at the same time, you have not stood up to them and have not said anything about it. You have allowed it to continue and to get gradually worse until it is to the point where there may be no going back.
Time To Change
It is time to take a serious look at the relationship as a whole and what both you and your partner are doing. Chances are there are changes that both of you need to make. Without these changes being put into place, there will be nothing different about the relationship and it will not get better. It is going to take effort on both parts.
Sit down and talk with your other half and figure out exactly what is going on. Chances are they may have a valid reason for being possessive and needy. If not, then reassess your relationship as a whole. Perhaps a clingy person is not who you need to be spending your time with.